Memories do not need to be aesthetic to be good

We are in an age where everything is available and viewed by everyone and their mother. It can be so nice to stay in touch with family far away and be able to see what is going on in their lives. But it is a double edge sword, you can see so much on social media so you can also compare and see all what you’re not doing. It can be so disheartening to see the same thing you are doing (for example motherhood) but they’re doing it with a “better” aesthetic. It can be so fun to look on Pinterest and see beautiful photos and great inspiration and feel a little jealous because your photos don’t look like that or you aren’t in a time of life that your house looks like that or etc.

As a mother I have fallen into that hole. I love cozy, elegant, cottagey vibes. I would just love for every part of my life to resemble that. Basically I want to live in a beautiful home with a fancy hobbit. That is me. Now, that is not exactly how all of my life looks like. I would love some amazing play room, but currently its where we have our baby chicks since it is the only spot in the house that could fit their encloser. Eventually they will move outside, but that’s not what is going on right now. It does not fit the aesthetic I am going for.

But that doesn’t mean I do not make beautiful worthwhile memories with my family and children everyday. My kids LOVE having the chicks in there with them. They talk to them and play near them so well. They are enthralled with the fact that they get to play everyday next to fluffy and sweet chickens. That is the memory they will remember in a good light. THey don’t care that it doesn’t fit moms ideal playroom vision.

There is nothing wrong with dreaming and planning a life that you just love and love the look of it. I am always planning my dream floor plan for a home I want to build. I love it, I love to plan and dream. But I never want to be lost in the desire to be that person so damn bad I feel bad about the memories I make in our little home with my kids. I adore our sweet home the Lord has provided for us and I hope to never be lost in the envy of the world to be something that I am not right now.

I am a mother of 3 kids and pregnant with my 4th. We are sometimes messy, some times we are doing fun activities and other times we are reading second hand books on our furniture that has been passed down and is way older than my kids. But who cares? That couch has allowed us to spend countless hours reading, snuggling, and making good family memories.

Be happy with where you are, because you can make amazing memories without having the best outfit or the picture perfect moment. Letting go of the need for things to look aesthetic or to look like someone online will free up your heart to relish such sacred times. Your kids are not young forever and making memories that last will be the one of the most important thing you can do with them.

In such a digital age it is tough not to get stuck in the wishing this looked like this picture perfect environment. But the truth is God gave you these beautiful moments. Enjoying a moment is more important then making sure they look just right. Your kids will remember moments with love and happiness. Insisting that everything match your aesthetic can make you and your family unhappy. Refusing to buy certain things that you like because it wont quite match the rest of your house is silly. You and your life is already your aesthetic and having a tad bit of a hob glob of things that you like makes you unique. ( I have done this, found something I loved but didn’t fit with the “vibe” of my home. Freaking silly right?)

Instead of getting into the loop of oh I wish my house looked like ___ or like so and so’s. Let’s get into the loop of romanticizing where we are and what our lives look like. How beautiful it is that we even get to live and we get the joys of raising our children. Remembering to get grateful for our things and our life is a great start to making memories that will out last everything.