Motherhood, its hard not bad.

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While motherhood is going to be the hardest thing you ever do it will also be the best thing you will ever do. But not many people talk about the good in my opinion. I was talking to my friend the other day who is expecting and she was telling me about how everyone tells her to just wait.

Just wait until their not sleeping, just wait for their attitude, just wait for poop all over. Oh just sleep while you can because you’ll never sleep again. Just wait you will never have time for you. Just wait for all the annoying kid shows. Just wait for this and that and they’re all negative.

My heart broke for her. She is expecting her first little babe and no one was telling her to good! She voiced to me how scared and worried she is because all anyone has to say to her is all the negative.

Now don’t get me wrong motherhood is HARD. BUT is is oh so sweet and good. Why are the just waits all the negative. It is never just wait for their firsts smile. Or when they light up when you enter a room. Just wait until you see them master something they have been working on. Just wait to watch their world expand and your heart explode. Just wait for their first reaction to food. Just wait to watch them play outside with friends.

I read this quote recently:

In the end I am the one who can give my children a happy mother who loves them.- Unknown

When we focus on all the negatives that come with motherhood it does not leave much room in our minds for the positive. You are the only one who can tackle what is your mindset and attitude towards your life.

I want my girls to look back and see that Mom chose to be happy. Chose us. She stayed home and loved it. She showed up everyday. You truly are the only one who can bring your kids a happy parent.

When I was younger I asked my mom what her dream job was. She told me it was staying home and loving on her kids. That memory became a core memory and I held onto that my mom was happy at home with us and that is what I wanted to do when I grew up.

I would tell people when I grew up I wanted to be a mom, and now I am here and I can see how hard it is. I want it even more. I want to be the one who gives my kids a happy mom who can help them see that motherhood is beautiful and worth more than anything.

So why not try? Some days I do a much better job at showing up happy then others. And that is okay. People are not perfect. But I am trying and showing up everyday.

Another quote I heard that hit home with me was one from Jordan Peterson, it goes like this.

Your children want the best relationship with you that they possibly could have. They’re 100% on board with that idea. Way more than anyone you’ve ever met in your life and that means you could have the best relationship with your children that you’ve ever had with anyone. That’s what they offer you and it’s up to you. that’s a good opportunity.

That really hit home. Because it is so true. Your kids want you to love them so much. With the cases I work I see children removed from their parents for awful abuse.

But something that always hits home to me, is those kids still love their parents and want to go back. They want their parents to pick them, to love them, and to have a better relationship.

Welcome your children into your world and you will always be better for it. It can be hard to have someone tagging along 24/7 but you will not regret it.

You will never regret trying to have the best relationship with your kids that you can. Another quote I think about daily is this.

Someday I’ll look back and say “I blinked and they were grown”. So I hope I also say “ But I saw it all, I soaked it all in. I was there for it all and it was great.”-Unknown

Seasons are short. Enjoy the mess and chaos. Soak it up. Now there are moments where you need to tell them go play while I finish this or hey mom needs 10 minutes alone.

Those moments are not what I am talking about. Everyone needs a break to be their best. I definitely do. But when I am with my kids I am 100% with them.

Several times a day I make them my #1 priority. So they know mom is here for me.

18 years is not the majority of your life, it will not be the majority of theirs. Childhood truly is short but so important. Take a breath, maybe take a break or find some you time. But remember you are doing God’s work and you’re doing a good job.

It is hard, but nothing lasting and worth while is simple and easy. It is difficult but that does not mean it is bad.

Sure it is hard, but what makes it harder is people drowning you and themselves in the negative. “I love my children but ____”

Venting does have its time and place but this is service to them and to God.

It is worth it. Motherhood is beautiful. It is ordained of God and is a role you will never regret. You will not be perfect and that is good.

Mistakes are where me make our biggest growth. It is about remembering this is hard but not bad, and it will be okay. You got this Momma!