The Joys of Motherhood
I often think people try to be relatable by talking about how hard motherhood is. And don’t get me wrong. It is extremely hard.
But I don’t think people are talking enough about how worth it and how beautiful it is. I think we should focus on being more relatable by showing the joy that is motherhood. The blessing that is motherhood. It is of God.
Being a mom is my favorite thing in the entire world. Watching your kids grow up is the most magical experience.
I am not saying that we should not talk about the lows of motherhood. But we should focus more on the highs of motherhood, which is far more important.
I work from home as a paralegal. One of the attorneys I work for represents kids in foster care. We got a new case and in a meeting I attended I felt like no one was encouraging the mother to continue trying.
No one was discussing the joys of motherhood and why she should not give up or give into any outside noise and to know mother hood is worth it and worth fighting for. No one told her that this was hard yes, but truly there is nothing more important or worth fighting for than your kids.
This is something so important to me. I find my self getting overstimulated and focusing on all the bad. Why do I do that to myself? That just spirals me into a bad spot.
When you focus on the negative more negative collects in your life. So why would you do that?? No one wants to collect the bad.
When I worked in an office I felt like I only parented on the weekends. Now I am with my kids 24/7. It can be overwhelming. But there is truly more beautiful moments than there is negative with motherhood. We just need to focus on them and see them.
Why as a society do we focus on the negative? I feel like we talk more about issues we have with our kids, their behaviors, what they can or can not do, etc.
Why?? My whole world changed when I began looking at every good thing God put us in our life. Instead of being upset my kids got up 10x last night I focused on, I was their comfort. I was there. I got the oppurtunity to be present. I know too well that not every parent gets that gift.
There is such a beauty to the day in and day out. The kids will not remember every meal I made, but they will know mom made meals, they will remember how we danced in the kitchen everyday. They will remember that they helped me cook.
I want to focus on that, instead of that when the kids do help me cook it takes 3x as long. Because who cares? I made a good memory with them, I got that time with that. That is irreplaceable.
Sure I did the same thing yesterday but that is amazing! There is joy in that. There is so much importance in being your child’s stability and safe person. So much happiness in being the one who is able to do homework with them and to keep and set the house boundaries.
I realized so much more after I hemmeroaged out after having my third baby that being able to simply BEING THERE, is so damn important. I was almost not there for anything ever again, but God gave me the ability to be their mother still.
To do all those mundane tasks and that is amazing.
If we as mothers dwell on the hardships of motherhood more than we dwell on the simple joys, we will see more bad and have a harder time.
Mindset is SO important in our world. It is important to keep our eyes on the Lord and the gifts he has given us through this wonderful children and the years we will get with them. I hope you dwell on the joys that motherhood brings.