Ways to Connect to Your Spouse
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Take a walk
Taking a walk is one of my personal favorites to connect with Bryton. We put the phones away and just talk. Even when we do not talk it is nice to just walk in the fresh air and be with him. There is something about getting outdoors that is so calming.
Play a game
For a long time Bryton and I would play a game of cards after we got Lucy to bed. Every once and a while we played a game of chess instead of cards. It again gives us a good time to discuss things and solve the worlds problems.
Cook together
This one does take a bit more patience, cooking in the same kitchen together needs some coordination. You can to find the dance around each while moving around the kitchen getting utensils and ingredients. But this dance can be very good to practice your communication skills with your spouse.
Journal
I am unsure when it started but in one of my notebooks Bryton wrote down 3 questions. They were something about where I would live if I could live anywhere. I wrote down my answers and then wrote down 3 different questions for him. This continued for a while, I learned many things about Bryton during this exercise.
A date night
A date is most couples go to to reconnect, and that is because it is a classic. But there is a reason it is a classic, the one on one that a date can provide is wonderful. Dates do not have to be some expensive restaurant to be magical. A ice cream cone and a walk around the park is cheap and easy idea!
Eat a meal together
When Bryton and I were newly weds we talked about how it was important to each of us that we eat dinner together every night that we can. Due to Bryton’s work schedule he was not always home for dinner, but it is so refreshing to sit with your spouse and eat dinner. It is a great time to talk to each other and become closer.
A picnic
It is such a romantic idea to have a picnic with your spouse. You can sit, eat, and chat with your partner and enjoy the fresh air. It also can be a wonderful time to people watch together.
Pray or do a devotional
It is so peaceful to pray with your spouse. Bringing God into your marriage truly can make or break it. By welcoming the Spirit into your life even more will bring you and your significate other closer.
Cuddle and watch a movie
Talking is not the only way to feel close to your husband/wife. Cuddling and watching a movie in silence can be so calming. You can be close to each other and just enjoy their company.
Ask questions
You can know your spouse incredibly well, but you most likely will never know them completely. Asking questions can help you to learn more about them. They do not need to be crazy deep questions if you do not want. I only recently asked my 91 yr old Grandpa what his favorite color was, I have known him 24 yrs and I have never asked. There is always more to know.
Give each other compliments
One day Bryton and I had gotten into an argument, I got mad and left the room to take a break. I was prompted to sit there and think of 10 things that I loved about him. It calmed me down quickly. Sit there and tell your spouse 10 things your like about them, the more you do it the more you can see the good in them and how much are bonded.
Share a memory
It can be so much fun to reminisce about funny, good, or romantic times you’ve shared. I love to look back on the past and laugh, sharing all the times that brought you together can help you connect and laugh together.
Do an act of service
Doing an act of service for someone can brighten the way you think of them. Doing something for them helps you feel close to God as well. It pleases Him when you serve him by serving others. It can be the littlest thing that make the biggest differences.
Unplugged one on one time
We live in such a digital world, but it is important for connection to spend time with each other without the distractions. Both of you put your phones away and give each other your full and undivided time. It will shock you how much it can help.
Go to bed at the same time
It can be so crucial to get on the same routine as much as possible, going to bed at the same time can help you connect with your spouse as you lay in bed together. Even if you both read a chapter of a book next to each other, it can be so nice to just be near them.
Talk
Communication is key to a happy and healthy relationship, but it can be one of the hardest things to do. It took Bryton and I 2 years to learn how the other communicates. Be patient, it is possible you and your spouse do not communicate the same way. Learn how your spouse communicates and make and effort to truly talk with them and be on the same page. Once you understand that, talking will be so much easier and you will be able to connect with your spouse more deeply.
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